From Internal Conflict to Self-Connection
Therapy for emotional pain deriving from current or past relationships, estrangement and bereavement.
Relationships often feel both deeply important and unexpectedly painful.
That moment where you overthink what you said. Or give more than you meant to, and feel it later. Or realize you’re in another conversation that’s circling the same old tensions, even if it’s with a different person.
Where the relationship should be a place of safety and connection, it is, instead, a place where you feel overwhelmed, misunderstood, and unsure of yourself.
Maybe you’re the one who holds everything together. Maybe you’re the one who pulls away when things get too close. Or maybe you oscillate between both, without really understanding why it keeps happening.
And it doesn’t stay contained to one relationship. It can show up with partners, family, friends, work, or in the way you talk to yourself afterward.
Whatever has brought you here, there’s usually something deeper underneath the pattern: a part of you trying to protect a vulnerability, with a strategy that doesn’t seem to be working anymore.
And it is exhausting.
In therapy we can start to tease these patterns out to understand what is happening underneath all of this because that is what’s maintaining these patterns and behaviours. Once we heal the wound, the patterns and behaviours won’t be necessary anymore and the symptoms will subside.
Common Questions & Concerns
If you have any questions or concerns that are not listed here, feel free to get in touch and I will address them directly with you.
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I help adult individuals who are experiencing difficulties due to: a current or past relationship; family estrangement; or bereavement. These experiences may lead to various symptoms such as anxiety, anger, overwhelm, low self-esteem, people pleasing and many more. If you have a particular symptom and you’re not sure whether I can help with it feel free to ask.
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Getting started is simple. Reach out through the contact form to schedule a free 30-minute consultation. In this meeting we can discuss your difficulties, and address and questions or concerns you might have about therapy or about me. I can also talk to you about how I would address with your specific concerns.
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Many people come to therapy with a strong understanding of their past and their patterns, yet still feel emotionally stuck. My approach goes beyond insight alone. Rather than trying to get rid of symptoms, we work to understand them as meaningful responses shaped by your experiences. By creating safety and compassion within your inner world, deeper and more lasting change becomes possible.
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You can reach me anytime via the contact page
or email at charmaine@seedsofchangetherapy.net.
or on 07480067964
or you can book an introductory call using this link.
I respond to all enquiries and I aim to respond within one business day.
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The 30 minute introductory call is complimentary.
A full 50-minute session is £85.
Longer sessions are available and the price would be pro-rated.
I have a 48hr cancellation policy. If you cancel after this point, I will still offer you an alternative appointment where possible.
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Working with me is collaborative, thoughtful, and paced to what feels right for you. Clients often say they feel at ease, understood, and safe enough to explore things they may not have been able to put into words before.
I start by getting to know what’s been happening for you and how you experience it emotionally, mentally and physically. Together, we begin to notice the different parts of you that can show up in certain situations. For example, the part that shuts down, overthinks, people pleases, becomes critical, angry or emotionally overwhelmed.
Rather than seeing these responses as bad or something to get rid of, we become curious about them and try to understand why they developed in the first place. Often these patterns began as ways of coping, protecting yourself or surviving difficult experiences.
As therapy progresses, we explore whether these ways of coping are still helping you now, or whether they may be keeping you stuck or creating difficulties in your relationships, emotions or daily life.
We also gently work with the deeper wounds underneath these patterns, including painful experiences, unmet needs or beliefs you may have carried about yourself for a long time.
Through this process, many clients find they begin to relate to themselves with more understanding, feel less controlled by old patterns, and experience a greater sense of calm, clarity and connection within themselves.
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If you find it difficult to open up, that’s exactly where we start. Most of the time this is a behaviour learnt from past experiences and I can help you with that. This behaviour ca be our friend in therapy as it sets the limits that are right for you. You will never be required to share anything you’re not ready to share. Every question I ask, every suggestion I make, is always conveyed as an invitation not a requirement so that you can feel in charge and safe at all times.
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Yes, actually around half of my clients tend to be men. Many of the men I work with come to therapy wanting a space where they do not need to perform, be strong or hold everything together.
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If this is you, you’re in the right place. It can be very disheartening and you might be very skeptical. If it didn’t work previously, why should it work this time round? There are various reasons why therapy doesn’t work. Sometimes it’s the affinity between the therapist and the client, sometimes it’s misunderstandings about what therapy is or isn’t, sometimes it’s the type of therapy or how it’s delivered. That is why this is one of the first questions I ask all prospective clients. I want to know what you’ve tried before, how it might have been helpful or unhelpful, so that we can learn form the past experiences and avoid making the same mistakes twice.